Healing Is Not a Solo Sport
How Community Became My Medicine
Written by Lena Corene Servin
There was a time when I believed I had to do it all alone.
That healing meant “fixing” myself in private.
That strength looked like silence, and self-reliance was the highest virtue.
And if I’m honest… a part of me still tries to default to that sometimes.
To disappear into my own process.
To carry it quietly.
To not need anyone.
But what I’ve learned — in the most humbling, grace-soaked way — is that healing doesn’t happen in isolation.
Healing happens in connection.
In safe witnessing.
In being mirrored.
In being met.
The Nervous System Needs Each Other
Polyvagal theory teaches us that our nervous system finds safety through co-regulation — not just self-regulation.
This means that being in the presence of someone who is calm, grounded, and attuned can actually shift your internal state.
Healing isn’t just about “working on yourself.”
It’s about being with others in a way that helps you feel safe, seen, and real.
For many of us, the original wounds happened in relationship.
So it makes sense that the deepest healing happens there too.
The Myth of the “Strong One”
If you’ve always been the caretaker, the problem-solver, the one people turn to — you might have learned that being vulnerable equals being a burden.
But here’s the truth:
Your strength doesn’t come from doing it alone.
Your strength expands when you allow yourself to be supported.
I see this all the time with clients.
They come in with their guards up — not because they don’t want to open, but because they were never taught it was safe to.
But when they’re given space…
When someone sits across from them without trying to fix them…
When they’re truly witnessed without judgment or agenda…
Something powerful shifts.
My Own Experience of Being Held
Recently, I let myself unravel in front of someone I trust.
Not with the polished version of the story, but the messy middle of it.
And their response wasn’t advice or analysis — it was presence.
That presence became medicine.
Not because it gave me answers.
But because it reminded me:
✨ I’m not too much.
✨ I don’t have to do this alone.
✨ I get to be held, too.
Ask Yourself…
Where did I learn that I have to heal alone?
What would it feel like to let someone hold space for me — without needing to fix anything?
Who are the people I feel safest being fully seen by?
What kind of connection is my nervous system craving right now?
How would it feel to be supported without apologizing for it?
🌿 Your Next Gentle Step
At Serenity Cove, we don’t just hold space — we walk with you.
Whether it’s through a breathwork journey, a soul-nourishing circle, or a quiet moment of reflection in nature, you are invited to experience healing in connection.
You don’t have to do it alone.
You were never meant to.
